I’m in a pro-life group and there was a post the other day that shared a short interaction with a pro-lifer and a lady who just had an abortion… The result was horrific.
Lady who had an abortion: *posts sharing her feelings of grief she is having after her abortion.
Pro-lifer comments on post: “well then you shouldn’t have had one”
Lady: “and have a baby I don’t want? make it make sense”
Here is my take on this interaction:
The thing with abortion is that nobody tells you about the after effects of having the abortion. The world makes it seem as if it’s a normal option and everything is fine and dandy about having an abortion… But then you have one and you realize you just killed your baby… And it’s not okay and you’re not okay…
What the pro-lifer said to her is probably the worst thing she could have said because the lady is already obviously regretting having an abortion for she is grieving her lost child… She is being vulnerable and obviously seeking solace and perhaps advice.
Being on the pro-life side is the perfect side to be on in instances like this, so that we can be there to comfort her and offer her help and resources in her grief. In her vulnerability, she is open to consider why she feels the way she does and thus having the opportunity to have her mind changed about abortion and pro-life issues…
This could be a wonderful turning point in her life, and the pro-lifer may have just made her build up walls…
After feeling attacked, of course she had to come back and justify her actions. No, her justifying her abortion and her feelings of grief is not her being a hypocrite. It is her being in a place where she really doesn’t understand what she is feeling and how to go forward from here.
She is seeking help and the only way to help her is to offer her grace, unconditional love, compassion, and kindness.
People like this are wanting peace. Don’t give them war.
Just a little thing like grace allows for the space to discuss hot topics such as these and allows the space for people to accept their sins and change their ways.
May God change both of these women’s hearts – may He soften them – and may He turn their faces towards Him so that they may be showered in His grace, love, forgiveness and acceptance.
Please pray for these women. Thank you.