God knows the detrimental effects being sexually immoral can have on a person. Which is why He commands us to practice chastity before marriage.
“For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; not in the lust of concupiscence…”
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
Everything that God commands of us is for our own good.
He knows that our human desires get us into trouble and He knows that Satan is out there wanting to take us away from our Father’s loving arms. He knows that our souls are in battle and so, we must learn how to live holy and honourable lives.
The beauty of chastity is in knowing that you will be sharing the most intimate parts of yourself with only one person.
The beauty of chastity is in many other things as well, like: the teaching of discipline, the confidence it gives us and the revival of the meaning of sex and marriage.
Choosing chastity teaches us discipline.
Lust is a powerful emotion that not only overtakes our body, but our mind too. Our heart’s desire is what decides our fate in this moment of lust. Do we desire what our flesh desires? Or do we desire something of the Heavenly realm? If our heart is in the right place — with Jesus in the eternal — we can have control in lustful situations. When we act with discipline toward our desires in these lustful situations, we gain confidence that we can control ourselves in not just these situations but in other tempting situations, too.
Choosing chastity builds confidence within a relationship.
Chastity within a relationship, is a way for two people to get to know each other on a deeper level than just physical. Much of this world believes sex is a must before marriage, for how else are two people to know whether they are compatible in bed? This lie has fooled an entire nation. This lie has ruined the beauty of the more important things in a relationship — like compatibility in religion, politics, morals, goals, passions, or how one wishes to raise their kids. Staying chaste before marriage allows one to focus on these intellectual and spiritual aspects first, and when two people match up well in all those areas, they can rest knowing they have yet to share themselves with anyone else. A special form of intimacy can be built in this kind of godly relationship.
Choosing chastity revives the meaning of sex.
Choosing chastity revives the meaning of sex.
Sex was created by God to be enjoyed by a man and a woman in wedlock. Sex was created by God so that we may fill the earth with more humans. When we choose to stay chaste before marriage, we acknowledge that we genuinely understand what sex is and what it was created for. When we choose to stay chaste prior to marriage, we bring the sincerity and seriousness back to what sex really is: an intimate connection between husband and wife.
Choosing chastity revives the meaning of marriage.
I heard someone say, “I don’t see the point in getting married to my partner because nothing will change. We already live together and have kids together, so I just don’t see the point.”
The world has created the idea of marriage as taboo, as old-fashioned, as meaningless. Yet, the marriage covenant between husband and wife is the most glorious expression of love. Without Christ, one is unable to understand the sin they are committing when they have sex, have children, and live with a partner, all before getting married. This kind of a relationship is not founded on any promise that bonds the two together. Staying chaste prior to marriage allows marriage to become sacred again and it puts a lot of well needed pressure on what marriage truly means.
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